Life Lessons of a Failed Belt Test

Yesterday I wrote about Luke, a precocious 7 year-old who is struggling in school because other kids are noisy and disruptive in class.  I want to give you more background on Luke….as a reminder to all of us that we face different types of challenges each day.  Learning how to deal with challenges in life, including a group of kids in your classes who bug the heck out of you, is what the staff teach and model at my family’s Martial Arts Academy….as this story will tell. Luke failed his first belt test at the Academy in January 2009.  His mom Jennifer e-mailed my husband (the Head of School) that evening thanking him for holding Luke to high standards.  She wrote: “Thank you for helping us to teach Luke that there are times that he will have to work for something.  Until today he has never struggled to achieve anything.  Everything has always come very easily to him.  It … [Read more...]

“But Mom, I Want to Learn!”

Jennifer, a mom of a self-described “super smart, super geek” 7 year-old asked for advice last week about supporting her son through a terrible time at school.  Her son Luke is having a hard time dealing with the fact that he, in his own words, “wants to learn” but is not able to because he’s stuck in a class with kids who talk all the time and disrupt the teacher.  He can’t stand the fact that these kids “goof off” and, worse, share a table with him.  Jennifer feels lost.  When she was growing up, she was the “goof” who talked out of turn all the time.  She had never put herself in the shoes of the student who wanted – and needed – to be around others who were quiet and respectful of the teacher and the class rules.  Now, it's her son in those shoes. Luke’s a great kid.   Super smart, as his mother glowingly attests to, respectful and focused.  He reads … [Read more...]